>crippling loneliness starts affecting my mental health so I finally decide to make some friends
>a couple months pass by
>meet this girl
>she actually tries to develop our relationship and wants to meet up regularly
>I actually think she is into me
>she decides to message me the other day and we started chatting online as well
>BUT everything is happening so fast that I can't keep up
>haven't been this social for years so I can't adjust to the pace
>anxiety starts building up
>actually considering going back to being a hermit now
don't.
chance comes one time a life. and this is your chance to be a normal human being with social life. don't waste it.
i personally would pay anything to get my chance back, rip.
Life is a struggle. Comfort is a trap. Whatever the outcome of these events you will be made stronger, as long as you don't retreat back into comfort. You started with nothing so you have nothing to lose. You only feel anxiety because you worry about events you cannot control, so realise it is a useless emotion and let it go. My favorite book when in need of spiritual soothing is Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. I listen to my audio version of it often, as a form of meditaion. Among other things he teaches you to let go of pain and soldier on with your life. Some fitting quotes:
>“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
>“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
>“Here is a rule to remember in future, when anything tempts you to feel bitter: not "This is misfortune," but "To bear this worthily is good fortune.”
>“No man is happy who does not think himself so.”
>“The art of living is more like wrestling than dancing, in so far as it stands ready against the accidental and the unforeseen, and is not apt to fall.”
>“It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.”
I believe in you, OP. You're obviously doing well. Just keep at it.
>>6751 Hell, I wish times when philosophies were applicable would return. Now all you can do while retaining some dignity without needless sophistry to justify your shitty life situation is to be dragged around while in your free time subverting what can be subverted and doing what you, as one, can do, like throwing molotovs on police cars. The life has changed so much that you can't focus on yourself while the world tries to destroy you and is actively hostile towards humane behavior and humans as in physical way (pollution, psy-ops, ie music, public places, architecture etc, gm food, poisioned water, lack of any independence without means to create one). The authorities eradicated all means of socializing, dispossessed us of alternative means of survival, stole the means of production, created false gods: constitutions, laws, "Volk" and common good.
What you are saying/quoting can be applied nicely on OPs case, but lacks value when it comes to creating the objective and subjective conditions which make a mass revolutionary action possible and which render the use of force against the authorities[bourgeoisie] feasible.
> worry about events you cannot control, so realise it is a useless emotion and let it go
Good thing, but then you will always just adapt to the pushed narrative. You should worry and should try to make it so that you can control the events you worry about or, better, eradicate the external roots of events you worry about and can't possibly effect, ie parliments, governments, communities, organizations, platforms, technologies and shit.
Just so that you will not give a fuck will make you rot in jail, we don't live BC anymore.
Reminder that Marcus Aurelius he sure was handsome when young was filthy plebeian and stoic, you are better of with teachings of T.G. Masaryk, the only President-Philosopher ever.
Now with all those supposed intellectuals having shat out their daily propaganda...
Just be honest with her and tell her you need a little more time.
Done.
>>6753 The key here is, as you said, that my post was aimed at OP's specific problem of being socially crippled by anxiety. Of course, for large scale political issues I completely agree with you. Top quality post but it belongs in another thread, I think.
>anxiety
>as an adult man
Jesus fucking christ bro how low test are you? If you want to be a hermit be one. If you want to fuck that girl then do it. Just do what you want and be urself dude. Anxiety, depression, these are all jewish invented concepts that you choose to feed into. Don't come here and write like some woman on her tumblr blog spewing jewish (((psychological))) terminology as if it's to be taken seriously by anyone with a 3 digit IQ and a dick and balls between their legs.
OP here.
>>6745 You can *actually* pay to get your chance back though. I began taking a foreign language course to expand my social circle and that's where I met her. I hear office romance is the low IQ man's game but you can ignore that and try meeting with people in your workplace too.
>>6746 pls no bully I'm struggling already
>>6751 I agree with the notion that its all "in my head" but getting bullied throughout my childhood probably didn't help with my situation. I'm aware that my perception of self-worth needs complete refactoring if I'm aiming to readapt to the society but its hard. Though it gave a direction to go so thank you for your thoughtful post.
>>6753 Politics and philosophy are not really my thing and admittedly I'm not very educated in that regard too. I'd rather not state my opinion about this.
Though like the other anon said, great post.
>>6762 Like I said above, I've been relentlessly bullied through the years that children develop their character, so I developed avoidant personality disorder as a result.
Think about a child with no perception of extreme heat. If one day he gets the opportunity to put his hands in boiling water, does that for the sake of it, and experience the pain of his skin burning off of his flesh, he will most likely never do that again. That's the best analogy I can give to describe my situation.
>>6765 >pls no bully
>muh (((personality disorder))) Personality disorders are by far the single most contrived linguistic bullshit the jews have ever came up with. Everyone was bullied as children you degenerate weeb faggot. There is literally no such thing as a (((personality disorder))). There's just you as you are and the choices you make. You're putting the control over your mind into the hands of jews with this pathetic victim narrative you've spun. You talk like an actual woman. Get your test levels checked, or if you're too retarded to see a doctor at least start doing heavy barbell squats or something. Let's not make a habit of these awful r9k woe is me garbage threads. Also stop watching shitty chink cartoons.
>>6770 I don't really believe that an actual ripped alpha ubermensch male actually browses this place. Your tone feels forced and insecure. Just wanted to state that.
>>6771 >unironically tone policing because someone told you to do a basic core movement pattern
Lifting is something every man on the planet who is even remotely sedentary should be doing. A lot of power lifters just look like regular guys. I don't care how you interpret my tone, as I don't have a gash between my legs. Keep your feelings to yourself faggot.
>>6797 This. Also the muscles you gain through bodyweight, not only that they won't ever go away, but are completely natural, feel more true and when you do bodyweight, whole upper half of your body gets stronger.
>>6770 Absolutely based anon, sad that OP feels personally offended by you revealing reality to him, but most animefags are like that. Hope this girl he's into wouldn't be too rough on him at least
>crippling loneliness starts affecting my mental health so I finally decide to make some friends
>a couple months pass by
>meet this girl
>she actually tries to develop our relationship and wants to meet up regularly
>I actually think she is into me
>she decides to message me the other day and we started chatting online as well
>BUT everything is happening so fast that I can't keep up
>haven't been this social for years so I can't adjust to the pace
>anxiety starts building up
>actually considering going back to being a hermit now