>>60563
I was able to figure out the respect and power aspects on my own. I may be autistic but I've gotten relatively good at analyzing interpersonal relationships and diagnosing the issues. I think the autism still shows when I fail to actually put things into practice. When the time comes for me to apply this or that measure I often end up blundering and just aborting or raging instead of engaging the other person the way I should. To be clear I don't ALWAYS fail though

>there should be a common understanding between the parties and respect
I don't think this will be possible. I don't hate my parents at all and I do acknowledge the good things they've done for me but our values don't all align and they're complete normies. I know that sounds like a very childish or edgy thing to say but it's just the truth. They're just some Chad and some Stacey and I'm barely human. It's never going to work and I need to stop convincing myself that it will. We help each other out, out of need, but I don't really like or fully trust either of them. It's closer to a job than a normal parent-child relationship. "But you owe them your life!" Yeah, but they're still normies with zero self awareness who have done PLENTY of harm along the way. Including harm done to me. My life has actually been pretty horrible so far

>punishment for standing up for yourself
I can see my father trying that, possibly. I'm buying some cookware for myself later this month so I can be more independent just in case. I used to use my mom's stuff but most of it broke or got lost over the years

I appreciate your honest and humble advice btw

>>60564
That sums it up nicely. Hopefully they'll die to olditis soon. The rest I may have to take care of myself. Maybe lizbro could lend me his "tools". I could be a lead technician