Right I think I get what you are saying here so imagining the subordinate as like the child side while the dominant as more mature responsible side I've basically been letting the children have the control. So even if the dominant female is in control and I eventually being the dominant male back into balance it'll likely still stay as the dominant female being the main power once I can connect it because it has the most strength and influence in my mind. In that case I for sure will work on connecting it with the female subordinate since that seems like the past of least resistance and quickest path for healing.
