I find reading these conversations a very good way to corroborate all the reasons why I've all but given up on relationships. it's clear to me how the great majority of people evaluate and judge their partners in terms of how well adapted their are and how good they perform socially and economically. of course this was always the case in a way or another, but it's just as true that all of those things people seem to care so much about have nothing to do with loving someone as a person, and I have no use for them, so I'd rather be alone.