>>974734
If a female has a bad or abusive childhood they are more likely than males to take up self harm. Males are more likely to drink or just commit break neck successfully. Abuse can really fuck your head and emotions. Abuse can reduce you to feeling just shame and empty which is it's own type of pain, so to escape it they try to use self harm to activate chemical self soothing to get out of shame or emptiness. The shame and emptiness can be quite dire. It can have an existential effect of meaninglessness. It's not really "I want to die" It's, I want to feel something and get rid of this shit.